How to Help a Friend

If you had symptoms of physical pain, you’d ask for help. But anxiety, depression and other forms of emotional pain can be more complicated. Sometimes part of the problem is being unable or unwilling to recognize that there is a problem. Fortunately, our friends are often in a good position to recognize the first signs of trouble.

What to Look For
If you notice any of the following in yourself or a friend, it’s usually a good indication that you’re dealing with something more difficult than the usual, everyday stress:

•    Feelings of hopelessness or being trapped
•    Impulsive, reckless behavior
•    Uncontrollable anger or craving for revenge
•    Increased alcohol or drug use
•    No appetite or increased appetite
•    No interest in activities
•    Insomnia or increased sleeping  
•    Anxiety and agitation
•    Social withdrawal
•    Fatigue
•    Inability to concentrate
•    Dramatic mood swings
•    Sense that life has no purpose
•    Feelings of worthlessness or guilt
•    Depressed mood
•    Thoughts of death or suicide

Check Yourself
Of course, it’s hard to get a good, objective perspective on our own thoughts and feelings. One thing that can help is taking this confidential and anonymous screening, either for yourself or a friend. Answering this simple series of questions can provide some valuable insight into your state of mind.

How to Help
If a friend has a problem, it’s easy to feel helpless and confused. Don’t try to deal with the situation alone, even if your friend wants to swear you to secrecy. Helping them is much easier if you have a little help from other friends, family or professionals.

You can also make things easier by just being a good friend. Be direct and honest. Encourage getting help without sitting in judgment, acting shocked or suggesting that you have all the answers. Don’t be skeptical or dismissive. And – above all – be available and listen.

Where to Get Help
Remember, these issues are a lot more common – and treatable – than people realize. Check out a detailed list of local resources where you can get help and support.